LIVE A POSITIVE LIFE. INFLUENCE OTHERS.

Let’s admit it: some women have become jaded after breaking up a number of times with guys who have been reduced into various derogatory words after the breakup. Some vowed never to fall in love again. However, deep within the recesses of their hearts, they long to find ‘The One.’

There are also women who have not been into a relationship before. Someone came up with the label ‘No Boyfriend Since Birth’ (NBSB) and some of these women consciously claimed the term for themselves as they wonder and even agonize why their turn hasn’t come yet. These women often look for the wrong things in themselves.

“If you want a relationship with a good man, you have to believe that men are good,” relationship expert and counselor Aileen Santos said.

Not only that, Santos also strongly told women in her recent relationship seminar ‘Fabulously Feminine 4’ that women ‘need to expose themselves to more men’ to be able to find the good ones.

Santos explains the divine design of women

Santos said there are so-called ‘Little girls’ wounds’. These are the messages that become barriers in finding love: “You are unworthy”, “You don’t deserve”, “You are powerless”, “You have no value”, “You are not lovable”, and “You are bad”.

  “Decide to set yourself free,” she said. “Accept the past as is, learn its valuable lessons, let the old title go and choose to define yourself in a different way now.”

“A lot of women don’t know how to receive love…look at the way you receive compliments…Believe it and accept it. A compliment is a gift,” Santos said.

 Interestingly, coach Christian Doroin revealed the fear of men in failing. 

“In the Philippines, most women wait for the right guy. You just wait. Unlike us, we do the courting. You don’t fail while many men fail…we try, we fail until someone actually says ‘yes’,” Doroin said. “We often ask a lot of questions because we are afraid of you,” he said.

“In failed relationships, most women will accept the blame. But for men, it’s more of thinking ‘what did I not do’ rather than what did I do,” he added.

Santos emphasized that the key in all stages of attraction and love is making the guy feel that he is appreciated.

The stages of attraction and love begins with generating interest; turning the interest into attraction; growing the attraction into a potential relationship; leading the potential into a relationship; bringing the relationship  into a commitment and building the ‘happily ever after’ stage one day at a time.

**The Fabulously Feminine seminar 4 gave participants a chance to practice what they learned about the right approach in meeting men during lunch break. It also provided a sort of a ‘practicum’ on what to do during a date, the do’s and don’ts in the practice. Thanks to the two other coaches, Julius C. Pre and Christian Doroin for providing the men’s insights on the complexities of love and relationships. (^-^)

The coaches and the participants in a light mood after the training